Parenting is not an easy job, let alone coming off to be a good parent is the most difficult thing. It’s a two-sided job if you are putting your best to be a good parent than it is equally important for your kid to participate too and vice versa. What’s necessary is that you keep a check on your anger and never involve your kids in your fights.
It’s okay to expect things from each other being a family, parents expect their child to be sincere and obeying, on the other hand, kids want their parents to become their friends and give them the freedom to understand what’s wrong and right themselves.
So, if you are a parent then you will definitely understand why is it important to avoid saying these 9 insensitive things to your child and keep a healthy environment around your kids while they are growing up.
• ‘I WAS MUCH MORE RESPONSIBLE WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE’
Do you really don’t remember what you were like at that age? What troubles you brought up for your parents every day or every now and then! How can you expect a child to be perfect when he/she should be enjoying the best days of their lives, their childhood?
Expectations are what roots the anger in the first place. Comparing your kid’s childhood with your childhood days is the worst and biggest mistake you are making right there. This might even break your child’s heart and confidence in you and themselves as well.
• ‘YOU ALWAYS END UP TAKING WRONG DECISIONS’
Instead of blaming them for their immature behavior, why don’t you handle your mature self, better? It the job of being a good parent, that you guide your kids into the right direction but not force them to walk on the path you chose for them. Stop accusing, start supporting your kids!
• ‘WHY CAN’T YOU BE MORE LIKE YOUR BROTHER/SISTER?’
Every child is unique in its own way! So, stop comparing them with each other, this might make you feel better, but it will simply destroy their relationship with each other. By comparing their abilities, you are seeding animosity amongst your kids, which may be raging a cold war between siblings or developing a negative feeling for you, which does not end well.
• ‘LEAVE ME ALONE’
Patience is always the key to every successful relationship. That’s true, even for parents. There will be times when your littles won’t be able to understand the depth of the situations you are dealing with, be it on the personal or professional level.
But out bursting your rage on them is not the solution, instead, it will leave them depressed, scared, unwanted and neglected at the same time. This might not only destroy your relationship with them but it will also affect their ability to socialize with other people.
• ‘YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF’
This is a sign of being a ‘Bad Parent’, not a sign of your kid being a ‘Bad Child’. This totally depends on you how you handle such situations, where you need to teach your kids the difference between good and bad, where they will know what direction they want to walk in for the future.
Saying such awful things is not the solution, but this might only pester a rage and a negative feeling for you in their mind and heart.
• ‘YOU’RE JUST LIKE YOUR FATHER/MOTHER’
Not all marriages end up with happily ever after, and the bitterness of those differences affects negatively on your gives. But scolding your kids is wrong no matter for whatever the reason.
And the worst time is when you start to shower the bitterness and rage of your partner’s mistakes on your kids and they start to lose your respect.
Also Read: 7 Annoying Things Newly Married Couples Do!
• ‘YOU ALWAYS FIND WAYS TO HURT ME’
Everyone has the right to take their own decision, so do your kids. Sometimes you will agree and other times you won’t, but forcing and manipulating your kid’s decision is wrong, and such thing like the above statement might make them feel guilty but will definitely lead to an unhappy and regretful life.
• ‘IT’S BETTER TO BE CHILDLESS THAN HAVING A KID LIKE YOU’
This is possibly the worst thing a parent could ever say to their child. Whatever may be the reason behind your anger, never under any circumstances must you repeat this statement in front of your kids. This might leave you regretful for the rest of your life, unknowing of what effect it left on your child.
• ‘GET RID OF THE BAD COMPANY OF YOUR FRIENDS’
Unlike us adults, children are unknown and innocent of ‘good’ or ‘bad’ company of friends. We can differentiate but kids can’t, their friends, no matter how they are, are their world for them. So, you can’t just order them to get rid of the ‘bad’ ones and get a new set of ‘good’ friends.
So, to become a good parent, start trusting and befriending them to lead them on a good path. Share your comments below!